Katie 17, 2012, 9:42 am july
We agree to you… i dunno. Its hard. I recently know personally i couldnt just let your ex glare at me personally for no reason… like, sorry woman, be angry at him. We have done absolutely nothing to you. But thats simply anyone I will be.
Like i said, i wouldnt walk out my method to you will need to speak to her, but she will turn her focus from the LW being an issue to the guy being the issue, which is what is going on if she sets the record straight with the girlfriend, hopefully.
Katie 17, 2012, 9:50 am july
And in addition, exactly what would you want to bet they talk all the time that he is feeding his new girlfriend the whole “crazy ex” routine to explain why? And was running into one another actually just a coincidence?
Nadine July 17, 2012, 9:52 am
I will understand why you’d believe that means, it isnt nice never to be liked, but We see the page to be in regards to the LW relationship with ex-BF, perhaps perhaps not the ex-BF present relationship. Thats simply a complicator. The LW can just only get a grip on her very own actions, and overlook the ex-BF calling and annoying that is being. Their relationship with brand new GF is none of her company, and frankly, the 2 girls don’t need to be buddies after all. It can you should be an additional connect to the man when it comes to LW, who’s wanting to cut ties that are emotional.
Katie 17, 2012, 9:54 am july
Thats a great point for sure!
Nadine July 17, 2012, 10:01 am
Oh and god, we hate the crazy ex routine – I accustomed be buddies using this band of dudes who accustomed have such lady-issues, and all sorts of the girls they dated would get crazy on it after two weeks and I’d get actually amazed, cos they seemed therefore normal in my opinion? Then we realised it ended up beingn’t the girls, its the people. Therefore the girls had been all people that are just normal, you understand, desired to understand if that they had a boyfriend or not…….
Katie July 17, 2012, 10:04 am
Yea. Its love, when that takes place enough times- what’s the typical denominator? YOU MIGHT BE!!
I do feel harmful to this new GF. She deserves to own a guy’s complete attention. And she deserves a man who isnt hung through to their ex, calling her and telling her dating sites for Sugar Momma Sites professionals which he nevertheless longs for her and stuff. Thats messed up! And she most likely hates the LW since the man is telling her a lot of crap about her. Its simply all incorrect. The whole thing.
Nadine July 17, 2012, 10:09 am
Personally I think bad on her behalf too, but she has to consider herself. Its difficult being the very first gf after a long relationship, but thats why a lot of people go into these with their eyes spacious. Oh and the man has to“ stop droppingBut We have a girlllllllfriend! ” into conversation. We keep imagining him carrying it out the means the crossdresser does it in minimal Britain, perhaps you have seen that? “Oh, but I’m a layyyyydeee! ”
Bagge72 17, 2012, 10:25 am july
Yeah that “but I have girlfriend” line is such crap, the LW understands he is just looking for a reaction everytime he says it that he has a GF. He desires the LW become like “well I don’t care I will still blow you” or “Dump that skank, and come back to me” if you have a GF,
Katie 17, 2012, 10:27 am july
Yea, its like whenever i was in senior high school and me personally and my boyfriend would split up almost every other week, in which he would “accidently” we would fight and get back together text me or something just so.
Lets_be_honest July 17, 2012, 2:45 pm
@katie, hahaha “just so we would fight to get straight straight right back together”
Kerrycontrary 17, 2012, 10:05 am july
I’ve said right right right here a great deal, if the man whips out of the word that is“crazy operate one other means. I understand so men that are many use that word to hide because of their dickish behavior.
Will.i.am July 17, 2012, 11:56 am
I don’t understand why individuals would phone some body crazy within the beginning. I simply state we didn’t see eye to eye long-term and then leave it at that. The actual fact which you place a “crazy” label about it, makes me think you might be one that loves to stir the muck.
Will.i.am July 17, 2012, 11:57 am
Additionally, if you’re ready to phone somebody crazy, wouldn’t which means that you may be kinda crazy too?
Rilooyah July 17, 2012, 4:44 pm
Therefore real! When the “crazy” comes away, Im operating one other means. I believe it absolutely was said above- whenever you attract the crazy, the typical denominator is constantly YOU, friend.
Bagge72 17, 2012, 10:21 am july
The truth is, that its partially the LW’s fault, she understands that he’s in this relationship, and she’s knows that when this occurred to her she most likely will be upset about this too, yet somehow she continues to respond to this dudes calls and even though he keeps stating that he could be dreaming about her, and all sorts of of this bull shit.
Lets_be_honest 17, 2012, 10:26 am july
Yep! We completely agree. LW, simply stop answering. Don’t talk to the woman since your simply likely to cause drama. You must just recognize he’s maybe not your boyfriend as well as if you nevertheless like their attention, the truth that you understand he’s got a gf is causing you to a negative man in this too.
Katie 17, 2012, 10:35 am july
That is a great point, you dudes. I didnt think about it like this.
So LW, them happyness, leave them alone!! Like eljay (i love you, eljay) said, someone has to be the adult in this situation if you really do respect their relationship and wish. You have to do it if he is not willing to be.
Painted_lady July 17, 2012, 2:17 pm
Amen bestie – I trust you about talking to the gf. That knows exactly just just what this guy has stated concerning the LW to justify their chatting many times, but as the relationship is none of the company, the fact that the LW and also the brand new gf have actually met now i believe permits the LW some freedom. If I experienced experienced a predicament where a pal brought some body around that I experienced learned about and wished to be friends with (I’m likely to assume that the LW wishes that? ) and it went horribly, i may touch base and get, hey, I’m so sorry that went defectively. She does not necessarily need to state, “Hey, so that your boyfriend happens to be saying that is___ in my experience and he’s the main one calling, in which he explained you had been ok using this, ” just “Hey, I’m therefore sorry that went defectively, I happened to be beneath the impression you had been fine with this being buddies, but i recently discovered I’m perhaps not ok with your being friends either, therefore it’s no problem anymore. ”
Kerrycontrary 17, 2012, 9:37 am july
I wouldn’t keep in touch with the gf relating to this. I would want is their ex of 3 years reaching out to me if I were dating someone for two months the last thing. And merely to share with you which you respect her relationship? I might think you’re bullshitting me personally and head that is playing. Just simply Take Wendy’s advice and inform your ex lover you don’t desire to hear them alone from him for a while, and then leave. Really they probably won’t workout because you will be nevertheless when you look at the photo (which does not do great things for a unique relationship), but allow them work that out on their own.
Kerrycontrary 17, 2012, 9:39 am july
Oh in addition, if we had been this new gf and my bf and I also went into their ex at a club I would personally additionally need that people leave instantly. It is therefore uncomfortable. Every person pretends they can be “mature” and stay buddies with exes and stay totally ok as soon as your SO’s ex shows up, but why? You don’t have actually become okay with being around your boyfriends ex-girlfriend of three years.
Bagge72 July 17, 2012, 10:28 am